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  • Hold on to Your Kids

  • Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers
  • By: Gabor Maté, Gordon Neufeld
  • Narrated by: Daniel Maté
  • Length: 14 hrs and 13 mins
  • 4.8 out of 5 stars (474 ratings)

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Hold on to Your Kids

By: Gabor Maté, Gordon Neufeld
Narrated by: Daniel Maté
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Summary

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Children take their lead from their friends: being 'cool' matters more than anything else. Shaping values, identity and codes of behaviour, peer groups are often far more influential than parents.

But this situation is far from natural, and it can be dangerous - it undermines family cohesion, interferes with healthy development and fosters a hostile and sexualised youth culture. Children end up becoming conformist, anxious and alienated.

In Hold on to Your Kids, acclaimed physician and best-selling author Gabor Maté joins forces with Gordon Neufeld, a psychologist with a reputation for penetrating to the heart of complex parenting. Together they pinpoint the causes of this breakdown and offer practical advice on how to 'reattach' to sons and daughters, establish the hierarchy at home, make children feel safe and understood, and earn back your children's loyalty and love. This updated edition also addresses the unprecedented parenting challenges posed by the rise of digital devices and social media.

By helping to reawaken our instincts, Maté and Neufeld empower parents to be what nature intended: a true source of contact, security and warmth for their children.

©2020 Dr Gabor Maté (P)2020 Penguin Audio
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A book that everyone should read!

This book is not only a must have if you want to help your children grow as healthy, happy and mature individuals. It also helps understanding better the world and oneself.

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fab book

really enjoyed this book,gabor's son is great reading it but at times I felt like I was listening to a robot. it has some really insightful thoughts and science behind us as parents and children's behaviour

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Amazing book!

Wish anyone involved with raising children read this book first! It is a must read for anyone family member, teacher!

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The book every parent should read

The best book on parenting. I bought the hardcopy too as I want to go through it again and make more notes/ underline. The narrator's voice is pleasant.

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Brilliant!

Illuminating, educational and relationship-changing. Brilliantly narrated by Gabor’s son, Daniel. Well worth the read.

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Mind blowing, must read for every parent

I understood a lot more about how parenting should be, what to be careful about and how to connect to my kids more.

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Really good

Really good book, lots of interesting points and a lot that makes sense. I would recommend parents read or listen to this one.

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An absolute must

If I had to choose one essential book for parenting nowadays, it would be this one. Whether your child is a toddler or a teenager, this book lights up a path to connect with them and prevent their falling into the devastating trap of peer orientation.
As a parent very concerned for my child's well being and proper maturation, I became aware through this book to mistakes in very common conceptions, which I didn't even realize were mistakes, but also very thoughtful ways to repair, reconnect and establish a close and nurturing relationship.
An absolute must.

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An eye opening book!

Highly recommended for parents of children of all age. An eye opening book about the peer cult and Influence on our children.

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What a great book!

what a great book! must read for parents! The approach to parenting based on attachement. The information is on attachment theory I have it also from other books, but this one opens my eyes into peer to peer issues.

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