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It's OK That You're Not OK

Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand

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It's OK That You're Not OK

By: Megan Devine
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A New Resource for Those Experiencing Loss

With It's OK That You're Not OK, Megan Devine offers a profound new approach to both the experience of grief and the way we help others who have endured tragedy. Having experienced grief from both sides - as both a therapist and as a woman who witnessed the accidental drowning of her beloved partner - Megan writes with deep insight about the unspoken truths of loss, love, and healing. She debunks the culturally prescribed goal of returning to a normal, "happy" life, replacing it with a far healthier middle path, one that invites us to build a life alongside grief rather than seeking to overcome it.

On this unabridged audio recording read by the author, Megan offers stories, research, life tips, and creative and mindfulness-based practices to guide us through an experience we all must face. With Megan's gentle but direct guidance, you'll learn:

  • Why well-meaning advice, therapy, and spiritual wisdom so often end up making it harder for people in grief
  • How challenging the myths of grief - doing away with stages, timetables, and unrealistic ideals about how grief should unfold - allows us to accept it as a mystery to be honored instead of a problem to solve
  • Practical guidance for managing stress, improving sleep, and decreasing anxiety without trying to "fix" your pain

Many people who have suffered a loss feel judged, dismissed, and misunderstood by a culture that wants to "solve" grief. Megan writes, "Grief no more needs a solution than love needs a solution." It's OK That You're Not OK is a book for grieving people, those who love them, and all those seeking to love themselves - and each other - better.

©2017 Megan Devine (P)2017 Sounds True
Grief & Loss Mental Health Personal Development Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Grief Inspiring Health Hearing Loss Overcoming Grief

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loved this book so much ,so I sent hard copies to others I know greiving, who are simply expected to get over their loss in some public health measured time period . No other book on grief came close in giving me such comfort and I have read so many searching for the reason I haven't gone back to normal

what I needed so much

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This book is so helpful for us as a family have grief.

Thank you so much.

Amazing

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I read other reviews and agree this speaks most to those who have suffered a sudden death and also in the early stages of grief. I am there right now. I lost my own partner as did the writer just 4 weeks ago today.

I searched everywhere and this is so far the only book that doesn't give positive, its will be ok stuff as right now she's is quite right, I don't want to hear it.

the no nonsense truth of how much this pain hurts felt very personal and let me know im no going crazy.

I can't thank the author enough for turning her pain into the perfect words for me right now. I've had a lost of loss but loss of a partner or spouse is very different and this has really helped me.

it really is OK to not be ok and I am just fine with that until I can survive more than hour by hour amd will listen over again.

Priceless to me

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megan's voice is soothing.
her words totally validate my grief.
i recommended listening to it

a lovely listen

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A wise and compassionate book. Well read. Useful for anyone who has been bereaved, and for those who support them.

Wise & compassionate

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Recommended, i need 14 more words to do a review which i don't have, this Audio has helped me, Megan has an amazing way with words and is a complete expert.

Thanks Megan 😊

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Gave an insightful support and help having very recently lost my Father , recommended to others

Comforting narration

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A great support and helped me understand and come to terms with my grief and start to cope with the profound and ongoing change in my life following the recent tragic death of our son- beautifully read by the author. Will be listened to many times over the months and years to come.

So comforting

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this book articulates so well what the bereaved go through as well as giving you tools to handle living after grief.

recommended. Honest account of grief

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I’m in two minds about this book, so bear with me.
My parent died a few years ago, so I have first hand experience of early stages if grief. I also am a trained bereavement supporter for a nationwide charity.

I feel like this book might be useful for a newly bereaved. They will find thar they are not alone in that experience, the author normalises feelings surrounding the grief through sharing her story. I probably would have liked to reas it when my parent died. However, she mostly focuses on ‘out of order’ death (I understand that as death that wasn’t meant to happen naturally), such like death of a child, death of partner or sibling while still young. There is no mention at all of death of an older parent, for example. It perhaps is ‘in order’ (?), but it still can be incredibly painful to live through. Would I have felt like I should not be grieving so deeply because my bereavement was ‘in order’? I don’t know, but it’s something to gear in mind.

If you are going to read this book as somebody who wants support a loved one through the grief, it might be useful, but I also feel like it also might put you off helping. There is lots of advice on what to do, but even more on what not to do, and it creates this picture that you need to thread on eggshells whilst blindfolded around the bereaved. I felt like there was a fair bit of contradicting advice and author come across somewhat bitter in places.
The underlying message is that you just need to bear witness to their pain and don’t try to fix it.

As a bereavement supporter I feel like have learned more from other books.

Great, depending on who is reading

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