Summary

In this conversation, Meli and Liv explore the nuanced definitions of selfishness and selflessness, challenging societal norms that label selfishness as negative. They discuss the importance of self-care and the need for individuals to prioritize their own needs to be able to contribute positively to the world. The conversation delves into childhood conditioning, the people-pleasing epidemic, and the journey from selflessness to a healthier form of selfishness, termed 'selffulness.' Liv shares her personal vows to herself as a powerful example of self-love and commitment to personal growth.

Keywords

selfishness, selflessness, selffulness, personal growth, self-care, childhood conditioning, people-pleasing, balance, relationships, empowerment

Takeaways

• Selfishness and selflessness are two ends of the same spectrum.
• Being selfish can be a form of self-care and empowerment.
• Childhood conditioning often leads to people-pleasing behaviors.
• Finding balance between selflessness and selfishness is crucial for personal growth.
• It's important to check in with oneself before giving to others.
• You can't pour from an empty cup; self-care is essential.
• The journey from selflessness to selfishness can involve a necessary swing.
• Selffulness is about being full enough to give to others authentically.
• Self-love is a vital part of being able to love others well.
• Creating a healed world requires individuals to be selfful.

Sound Bites

• "It's okay to be selfish."
• "We could save the world if each individual person just stopped looking for somebody to save them."
• "You can't give something you don't have."

Chapters

00:00 Defining Selfishness and Selflessness

05:51 The Importance of Self-Care

11:51 Cultural Conditioning and People-Pleasing

19:31 The Swing from Selflessness to Selfishness

27:17 Finding Balance in Relationships

33:45 The Role of Basic Needs

39:19 The Power of Selffullness

51:23 Liv's Vows to Herself

59:12 Outro

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Summary

In this engaging conversation, Liv and Meli interview Leola Watkins, the author of Sacred Sex Ed. They explore the themes of sacred sexuality, the journey of reading the book, the importance of tantra, and the dynamics of open relationships. Leola shares her insights on creating safe spaces for sexual exploration and the significance of self-trust in relationships. The discussion also delves into the SPREAD framework for safer sex conversations and the exploration of dark desires. The episode concludes with Leola's purpose behind writing the book and her vision for integrating spirituality and sexuality.

About Leola Watkins

Leola is a Pleasure Priestess & the best-selling author of Sacred Sex Ed, inspiring others to see an integration of sexuality and spirituality. She guides individuals and couples in discovering how life-force energy moves in the body; and more importantly, how to harness this inner-power for a pleasure-filled life that begins with our most intimate relationships and extends to our livelihood and our worldview.

In her early 20s, Leola discovered tantra and shamanic sexuality as modalities to heal her relationship to her body, process past sexual assault, and create a life she loves.

She is now dedicated to guiding others to be turned on by life itself, find God in their body, and seduce the world into a greater good.

Book: https://www.talktantratome.com/book

Website: https://www.talktantratome.com/

IG: @talktantratome

Keywords

Sacred Sex Ed, Tantra, Sexuality, Relationships, Open Relationships, Vulnerability, Healing, Journal Prompts, SPREAD, Community

Takeaways

• Sacred sexuality can be made accessible and playful.
• Vulnerability is the birthplace of magic and love.
• Understanding your own desires is crucial for empowerment.
• The SPREAD framework helps create safety in intimate conversations.
• Self-trust is essential in navigating relationships.
• Tantra is about expansion and liberation.
• Journal prompts can lead to significant breakthroughs.
• Open relationships require clear communication and agreements.
• Exploring dark desires can be empowering when done safely.
• The integration of spirituality and sexuality is vital for healing.

Sound Bites

• "It was a very confronting experience."
• "I wanted to make sacred sexuality more accessible."
• "I am the contributor of this reality."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Sacred Sex Ed

03:07 The Journey of Writing the Book

05:59 Personal Experiences and Confrontations

09:14 Understanding Tantra and Vital Life Force Energy

11:58 The Role of Journal Prompts in Self-Discovery

15:14 Navigating Relationships and Authenticity

18:09 Exploring Open Relationships and Jealousy

21:10 The SPREAD Framework for Safer Sex Conversations

27:05 Addressing Taboo Fantasies and Desires

30:02 Finding Community and Play Parties

36:09 The Impact of Sacred Sex Ed

38:48 Future Parenting and Sex Education

01:07:58 Outro

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Summary

In this episode of Babe Philosophy, Meli and Liv explore the complex question of whether looks matter in society. They discuss individual perspectives on attractiveness, the role of energy and self-care in how we present ourselves, and the importance of authenticity versus external validation. The conversation delves into the journey of self-acceptance and the impact of self-love on attraction, while also addressing societal beauty standards and the dichotomy of beauty and intelligence. Ultimately, they emphasize that true beauty comes from making choices that align with one's authentic self and the power of self-care in enhancing attractiveness.

Keywords

looks, beauty, self-acceptance, authenticity, self-love, attraction, societal standards, personal experiences, body positivity, self-care

Takeaways

• Looks matter if that person says they matter.
• Self-perception influences how we present ourselves to the world.
• Energy and self-care significantly impact attractiveness.
• Authenticity is more important than conforming to societal standards.
• Self-love is essential for feeling beautiful and attracting others.
• The journey to self-acceptance is complex and personal.
• People can sense when someone is being authentic versus seeking validation.
• True beauty is an expression of one's authentic self.
• Making choices for oneself enhances attractiveness.
• The way we care for ourselves reflects in our physical appearance.

Sound Bites

• "Do looks actually matter?"
• "Looks matter if that person says they matter."
• "It's more of an energetic thing."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction

00:35 The Question of Whether Looks Matter

02:51 The Subjectivity of Attractiveness

04:06 Authenticity and Self-Care in Appearance

07:39 Dressing for Love vs Dressing from Love

28:15 The Power of Authenticity and Self-Expression in Looks

37:08 Choosing What Feels Right for You

40:27 The Complexities of the Body Positivity Movement

43:24 True Beauty Comes from Authentic Choices

48:34 Acceptance and Non-Judgment in Body Positivity

51:14 Outro

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