In this episode of Blacktivities, Shannon, Lisa, and KK unpack the parenting phrases we grew up hearing—and how many of them still echo in our adult lives and therapy sessions. From “Because I said so” to “I brought you in this world, I can take you out,” we’re talking about how generational trauma gets passed down, sometimes biologically, and how we’re working to break the cycle for the next generation.

We dive into:

• Common phrases Black parents said—and what they really meant
• The mental health gap in the Black community and why so few seek therapy
• Epigenetics: how trauma gets passed through generations
• Shifting from survival-based parenting to emotionally healthy communication
• Why Black folks need therapy, support, and permission to grow

Plus, Mona Lisa delivers a beautiful off-the-cuff poetic moment about Black motherhood and resilience. And of course, we leave you with powerful calls to action for the culture.

CALL TO ACTION:

Let’s talk—what’s something your parents used to say that stuck with you (for better or worse)? Drop a comment, DM us, or leave a review.

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About the Hosts

Blacktivities is a Black Panache original production - a podcast network with a lineup of black-hosted shows sharing black stories and tackling black issues. For more information on shows like our newest production, Fat Lies Matter, visit blackpanache.com.

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• The Struggle of Growing Up With Black...

We all got 'em—those moments where our Black card might get snatched! In this lighter episode of Blacktivities, Shannon and KK trade Black Card Confessions—from not knowing how to play Spades to secret love for Wilson Phillips and white folks' footwear. But as always, we keep it rooted with a Big Facts segment on the history of the "Black card" and how it connects to the One-Drop Rule.

The episode dives into:

• The cultural remix of the "Black card" and its historical roots
• Spades, oxtails, Birkenstocks, and other so-called violations
• The Wire, The Chi, BMF, and why TV taste is not a revocable offense
• Music confessions, 90s love, and why Kendrick’s anthem might’ve been a little overplayed
• The fine line between levity and trauma, and a heartfelt call to keep spreading Black joy

Call to Action:

Got a Black Card Confession? Leave us a 5-star review and drop your “violations” in the comments or tag us on socials @blacktivitiespod. We might read yours on the next show!

#blacktivities #blackcardconfessions #spadesrules #blackjoy #blackpodcasts #onedroprule #blackculture

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Blacktivities is a Black Panache original production - a podcast network with a lineup of black-hosted shows sharing black stories and tackling black issues. For more information on shows like our newest production, Fat Lies Matter, visit blackpanache.com.

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• "Crossing the Color Line: Racial...

In this episode of Blacktivities, Shannon, Mona Lisa, and KK dive into a conversation that’s long overdue — the fetishization of Black men. From historical roots to what it looks like in dating, porn, and pop culture today, the hosts unpack the ways Black men are turned into objects instead of being seen as full, complex people. They share personal stories, research-backed facts, and a few laughs along the way. Spoiler: it’s not a compliment. It’s a call for respect.

Key Takeaways:

• Fetishization has deep roots in slavery and colonialism.
• It still shows up in media, dating apps, and everyday conversations.
• Black men often get objectified based on myths about their bodies or masculinity.
• Some men might be into it, but many aren’t — and it’s not the same as genuine attraction.
• Even we, as Black folks, sometimes repeat harmful stereotypes without realizing it.
• It’s time to see Black men as more than just a “look” or a “vibe.” They’re thinkers, builders, creators — full human beings.

Call to Action:

Black men — have you experienced fetishization? How did it make you feel? Drop a comment, DM, or email us your story. This convo ain’t over.

Sound Bites:

• “Why are people searching Mandingo porn and finding us?”
• “Live your truth, know your worth, King.”
• “You want a Black baby, but can you protect a Black child?”

Chapters:

• 00:00 – Welcome Back, Blacktivities!
• 02:12 – The Big Facts: Fetishization of Black Men
• 08:47 – Real Talk & Personal Stories
• 14:13 – Do Some Men Like It?
• 22:42 – Do We Reinforce These Stereotypes?
• 26:30 – Private Conversations with Black Men
• 33:00 – Celebs, Media, and Jamie Foxx?!
• 36:26 – Lisa’s Pieces: “Dear Black Man” (Poem)
• 41:53 – Call 2 Action 4 The Culture

Tags: #BlackMen #Fetishization #BlackLove #RespectBlackMen #Blacktivities

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