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Date Like A Nerd

Date Like A Nerd

By: Alex | Dating Anxiety Coach for Nerds
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Looking for your Player 2? Welcome to the Date Like A Nerd podcast, where your gamer skills, dice rolls, and cosplay become your greatest dating assets. This show is designed for shy, introverted nerds who want to find romance in a way that feels authentic and true to who they are.


We throw out the mainstream dating rulebook and focus on real data, real stories, and real life experience from the world of nerd dating. Whether you are rolling for initiative at a D&D table, swiping right on a dating app, or making friends at conventions and Discord servers, we show you how to unlock romance side quests in true nerd style.


Learn from nerds who found their partner, community organizers, and experts, to finally unlock your Player 2. Are you ready?


If you want to learn more, go to https://www.datelikeanerd.com/links


📱You can also join me on Discord! https://www.datelikeanerd.com/discord

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Episodes
  • What Your Video Game Choices Say About You, with Dr. Daniel Kaufmann
    Jul 23 2025

    🦾 What you consider success and achievements in real life could be similar to how you play video games. Dr. Daniel Kaufmann is back to share how learning what we value in video games reflects what we may also value IRL 🌎

    Understanding your player type can help you make choices that align with your personality 🤓 Knowing how you play video games can say a lot about the types of challenges you thrive on and how you prefer to overcome them. This new information can help you make choices that align with what you enjoy, helping you get over obstacles and get yourself in situations where you can thrive! 🏆

    But just like with any other model of personality type, these are characteristics that can change over time 📈 You likely don't play only one specific type of video game, so you're also likely to enjoy different things in real life. However, using these as guidelines can be the start to enjoying your life to the full 🤩

    🖤 Dating, like most things in life, has its own set of challenges. The cheat code is to choose the ones we're more likely to enjoy or, at least, find tolerable enough to overcome ⛰️

    Are you ready to learn more about yourself? Listen now and start choosing the best challenges for your player type!


    👾 FREE GUIDE: WHERE NERDS REALLY MEET THEIR PLAYER 2 🕹️

    Based on real-world nerd data. Download it at https://datelikeanerd.com/reality


    Guest Bio

    Dr. Daniel Kaufmann is a YouTube Partner as Dr. Gameology, where he teaches about the many positive elements of video games that help us overcome professional and personal journeys in real life.

    He is an Associate Professor who’s helped develop programs for gaming and geek therapy training in clinical settings, and his publications cover video games, personality theory, online education, and counselor development.

    Dr. Kaufmann recently published the book The Gamer’s Journey, to help you turn the themes found in many video games into life lessons that can unlock your own potential.

    Socials: @DrGameology

    • https://www.youtube.com/@DrGameology
    • https://www.instagram.com/drgameology/
    • https://www.facebook.com/DrGameology
    • https://www.twitch.tv/drgameology

    Other Links

    • https://drgameology.com/
    • https://discord.com/invite/3bY5u5EBcn

    Podcast

    • https://drgameology.com/podcast/

    Book: The Gamer's Journey https://www.amazon.com/Gamers-Journey-Daniel-Kaufmann-PhD-ebook/dp/B0D7NY5Z1R


    Related Episodes:

    • Beat the Fear of Rejection Through Your Gamer’s Journey
    • Gamify Your Dating Anxiety
    • Find Love Through Online Games


    Timestamps for lazy nerds:

    • 00:00:00 Intro
    • 00:01:23 Gamer Personality Types
    • 00:07:00 Learn From Your Player Type
    • 00:12:28 Understanding Personality Types
    • 00:17:58 What Playing Baldur's Gate 3's Dark Urge Says About You
    • 00:20:48 Takeaways From "The Gamer's Journey"
    • 00:22:21 Contact Info


    Contact:
    dm@datelikeanerd.com or
    @datelikeanerd on social media

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    25 mins
  • The High School Reunion: the Nerd Love Story of Pete and Ariana
    Jul 9 2025

    📆 High school crushes don't have to end with the academic year. Sometimes, relationships may benefit from a respawn much later. After gaining more XP, both players gain new ways to play together. What used to be two solo players may turn into a Co-Op game 💍

    In this episode, Pete "Belmont" shares how he lost contact with his high school crush, only to meet again 10 years later at their high school reunion 🧑‍🏫 Though still platonic, that encounter later developed into a close friendship that naturally grew into a romantic relationship.

    👻 For many couples, friendship is just the stepping stone towards a fulfilling relationship. Rather than fearing the Friend Zone, Pete shares how it was a natural transition for them. He finds that communicating your wants and needs is key. It's all about showing yourself to the world, including your interests and hobbies 🧩

    🤓 Both Pete and Ariana were nerds, though with slightly different tastes. But because neither of them hid it, and they accepted each other, many of their interests now overlap. To the point that she now watches more anime than he! 🖥️

    If you want a Player 2 who joins your nerd Quests (including a Hobbit banquet with a LotR marathon), this is the episode for you! 🍖


    🎧 Press Start to go on an adventure... for two! ⛰️


    🖤 WHERE TO MEET YOUR PLAYER 2 ORGANICALLY🎮

    200+ places and a walkthrough to guide you on your Quest!

    Download for FREE at https://www.datelikeanerd.com/where


    Pete's Links:

    1. https://linktr.ee/be1mont
    2. https://www.instagram.com/be1mont_lotr/
    3. https://www.youtube.com/@be1mont_lotr
    4. https://bsky.app/profile/be1mont.bsky.social
    5. https://www.tiktok.com/@be1mont_lotr
    6. https://www.youtube.com/@voicesofarda



    Timestamps for lazy nerds:

    • 00:00:00 Intro
    • 00:41:20 What Makes Pete a Nerd
    • 00:02:38 The High School Crush
    • 00:05:00 Escalating from Friends to Lovers
    • 00:06:12 Discovering a Fellow Nerd
    • 00:09:55 Friends to Lovers Transition
    • 00:11:03 The Friend Zone
    • 00:16:08 Being Confident in Your Nerd Self
    • 00:21:19 Closing

    #datingtips #datingadvice #dating #nerdlife #nerd #gamer #socialskills #podcast #lotr #tolkien #hobbit #anime

    Contact:
    dm@datelikeanerd.com or
    @datelikeanerd on social media

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    23 mins
  • Hobbit Hike: Where to Meet Nerds, with Sompi Harmetz
    Jun 25 2025

    🧝‍♀️ Wish you could find your Fellowship without having to roll a Nat 20 on charisma? Many shy, introverted nerds want to touch grass and be more sociable... without having to join extrovert quests! If that's you, Hobbit Hike could be the perfect solution! 🙌

    In this episode, Sompi invites us to join “Hobbit Hike”, a magical, costume-friendly adventure where nerds, geeks, and gamers gather to touch grass, twirl swords, and unlock their social tree ⚔️ Whether you’re a veteran cosplayer, a D&D dice goblin, or just someone who’d rather sit on a rock in the forest than shout over a hentai lounge, this episode will show you a new way to build your party.

    🤯 Hobbit Hike exploded from a handful of cosplay friends to a 70+ member stronghold, all while keeping things introvert-friendly and low-pressure. Sompi’s “assigned extroverts” and buddy systems make sure even the quietest newcomers find their people. With a mix of easy hikes and whimsical costumes, you'll find that the best connections happen when you’re not racing to the finish line 🏁

    🎧 Ready to level up your social life and unlock the Tolkien branch of your social tree? Press start and let’s go on an adventure! 🧙‍♂️


    🖤 WHERE (AND HOW) TO MEET SOMEONE ORGANICALLY! 🎮

    FREE WALKTHROUGH with 200+ ideas and a guide to help you on your Relationship Quest!

    Download it for free at https://www.datelikeanerd.com/where

    📱 Have questions? Join me on Discord! https://www.datelikeanerd.com/discord


    About Sompi

    Sompi is the founder of Healthbar Fitness, where she helps nerds, geeks, and gamers level up their health without abandoning the hobbies they love. Her journey began with personal struggles with negative body image and extreme dieting, including a stint in competitive bodybuilding that left her trapped in unhealthy cycles.

    Now, Sompi is on a mission to help other nerds achieve similar transformations. Beyond online coaching, she organizes Hobbit Hike in Las Vegas, where people hike in Renaissance festival outfits, and runs a vibrant Discord community with book clubs, movie nights, and craft sessions.

    At Healthbar Fitness, Sompi understands that true health includes community and personal growth—it's about building a balanced character sheet for real life while still having fun with the things you love.

    Sompi's Links:

    1. https://discord.gg/8jtQZR2YeF
    2. https://www.youtube.com/@sompiharmetz
    3. https://www.instagram.com/sompiharmetz/

    Related Episodes:

    1. The Tolkien Association
    2. Find Your Nerd Community
    3. Animé Los Angeles
    4. Tolkien meets Star Wars
    5. Find Love Through Online Games


    Timestamps for lazy nerds:

    • 00:00:00 Intro
    • 00:01:22 What's Hobbit Hike
    • 00:02:47 Who Joins Hobbit Hike
    • 00:04:10 Fitness Level Required
    • 00:06:34 A Different Hike
    • 00:07:46 Helping Introverts Fit In
    • 00:14:56 Checkin In On Attendees
    • 00:17:08 Reading Signs of Interest
    • 00:19:21 Keeping Everyone Safe
    • 00:24:08 Connecting Outside Hobbit Hike
    • 00:27:06 Start Your Own!
    • 00:27:48 Contact Info

    Contact:
    dm@datelikeanerd.com or
    @datelikeanerd on social media

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    29 mins
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