In this episode, we'll discuss how false promises can damage our self-respect and personal growth, and how the 21-day turnaround can change the narrative. We'll also explore the importance of self-trust and practical strategies for building positive habits.

Today's episode will cover:

• The impact of broken promises on self-esteem, motivation, and anxiety
• How repeatedly breaking promises can lead to a cycle of self-doubt and procrastination
• The 21-Day Turnaround: a jumpstart to progress and self-respect
• The power of small steps and building positive habits
• Practical tips for staying motivated and overcoming challenges

The Cost of False Promises

• How breaking promises to ourselves can negatively impact our self-esteem, and motivation, and increase anxiety.
• Creates a Cycle of Failure: We explain how repeatedly breaking promises can lead to a vicious cycle of self-doubt and procrastination. The momentum of negativity can be strong, but we must focus on consistently doing what truly matters.

The 21-Day Turnaround: A Jumpstart to Progress and Self-Respect

• What it is: The 21-Day Turnaround is a program designed to help you build key habits in the four most important areas of your life: spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical.

Building key habits:

• Physical: Aim for at least 30 minutes of exercise most days of the week.
• Spiritual: Start your day with the Proverb’s chapter of the day.
• Mental: Post something you're grateful for in the Thriving Man Facebook group.
• Emotional: Make a point to encourage at least one person each day.
• It can be done in under an hour a day.
• If you miss a day, you have to start over from the beginning
• The key is to focus on growth.
• Every man's greatest battle is always within himself. We'll discuss the significance of these core four areas in more detail next week.

The Power of Small Steps

• We explain the benefits of breaking down large goals into smaller, more manageable tasks. This makes them more achievable and valuable.
• Everyone starts small and then increases; like training for a triathlon by gradually increasing the distance each week.

Building Positive Habits

• We highlight the importance of focusing on a few habits at a time and gradually building momentum. Focus and simplify!
• Do each chosen habit every day to build consistency.

Overcoming Obstacles

• We provide practical tips for staying motivated and overcoming challenges.
• Reframe challenges as opportunities for growth.
• "Failure is only the opportunity to begin again. Only this time, more wisely." - Uncle Iroh (from Avatar: The Last Airbender)
• Overcoming obstacles is an individual journey but we all need support. The Thriving Man Facebook Group is a great resource for support and encouragement.

Challenge

• Start the 21-Day Turnaround Program today! This free program can help you achieve your goals and live a more fulfilling life. It's short, accessible, and impactful.
• Visit our website at www.21dayturnaround.com for more information.
• Join the Thriving Man Facebook Group

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In this episode, we discuss the importance of the relationships between men and women. We talk about how focusing on one woman, being a student of her, and going on a journey of discovery together can lead to a more fulfilling relationship.

Main Points

Focus on one woman: Don't try to understand all women. Instead, focus on understanding the woman in your life. This will help you build a stronger relationship with her.

Be a student of your woman: This means taking the time to get to know her for who she is as an individual. Pay attention to her likes, dislikes, and dreams.

Relationships are a journey: Don't see your relationship as a destination. It's an adventure that you and your partner will embark on together. There will be ups and downs, but if you focus on learning from each other and growing together, your relationship will thrive.

Outline

Why understanding women is the wrong approach

• All women are different
• Focus on understanding your wife/girlfriend

Keys to take relationships to the next level

Focus - avoid Tinder culture and distractions

• Married men: focus on your wife
• Single men: focus on getting to know the real woman

Study - become a student of your woman

• Dating: get to know her for who she is
• Marriage: continue to learn and grow together
• Keep notes on her preferences

Journey - relationships are an adventure

• Open world vs linear world in gaming
• Discover each other's individuality
• Face challenges and celebrations together

Challenge

Dating: what is your goal? Win the girl or get to know her?

Married: get curious, ask questions, take notes, be intentional

Call to Action

Build intentional time to be curious and grow your relationship

Download the Love Nudge app with your wife

I hope these show notes are helpful! Let us know if you have any questions.

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Learn how to navigate the holiday season with grace and gratitude. Discover practical tips for managing stress, coping with negative emotions, and cultivating a positive mindset.

In this episode, we dive into:

Developing strategies: For maintaining gratitude during challenging moments.

The Power of Gratitude: A powerful tool for managing stress and improving mental health.

Practical Tips for a Grateful Mindset: Learn actionable strategies for shifting your perspective and cultivating a more positive outlook.

Key Takeaways:

• Make a list of what you're thankful for and have it readily accessible

• Engage in physical activity: Work out, exercise, clean, etc.

• Take a short walk outside (10-20 minutes)."
• "If needed, take a break in a private space (e.g., the bathroom)."

Process negative feelings through journaling: Write a 'psalm' expressing negative emotions, followed by a shift to positive ones. This can be done as a prayer or reflection.

• Create a personalized gratitude list and refer to it whenever you need a mental boost.
• By implementing these strategies, you can navigate the holiday season with greater ease and emerge feeling refreshed and rejuvenated.

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Learn how to incorporate gratitude into your daily life. Discover practical methods, frequencies, and settings to foster a heart of thankfulness.

Are you truly living a life of gratitude, or simply saying you're grateful? While gratitude is a noble attitude, it can often take a backseat to the hustle and bustle of daily life. Let's explore how to intentionally cultivate gratitude through daily rhythms.

Building Your Gratitude Rhythms

To truly embrace gratitude, we must actively choose it. This involves incorporating specific methods, frequencies, and settings into our lives:

3 Methods (How):

• Remembering: Consciously recall moments of thankfulness throughout your day.
• Resting: Pause and appreciate the present moment, free from distractions.
• Connecting: Spend quality time with loved ones, fostering deeper relationships.

3 Frequencies (How Often):

• Daily: Incorporate daily practices like journaling, highlighting a daily positive, or sharing gratitude at the dinner table.
• Weekly: Dedicate time for Sabbath rest and reflection.
• Seasonally: Celebrate holidays and traditions with family and friends, emphasizing gratitude.

3 Settings (Who's Involved):

• Personal: Cultivate individual gratitude practices.
• Family/Friends: Share gratitude experiences with loved ones.
• Church: Participate in corporate worship and community-based gratitude initiatives.

Your Challenge:

Choose one method, frequency, and setting to start building your personal gratitude rhythm.

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Being present is easy to say but hard to implement. As men, we love to solve problems and get things done. This often causes us to be somewhere else in our heads when we are with people, which can damage our relationships and our work abilities. If we are somewhere else in our brains, we will often miss things in the moment.

Being present is a skill we can practice and improve. It’s not something that is only for those who have that ability. We can all practice it and improve at it.

When we become more present, we can have better relationships and be more successful in all our endeavors.

• The past is a reality in our lives
• Good or bad, we must deal with events of our past or they will affect the present
• No matter the past that happened to us, we can’t let it affect the present in a negative way
• Bad past events - we relive or live out in an unhealthy response
• Good past events - We live in the past and don’t recognize today
• We must learn how to process our past and then live in today

• Living today takes focus and work
• We have to decide to live in the present
• Be still and know that I am God
• This is a reality many don’t get cause they don’t slow down to let God speak to them

• We miss the present when we are so focused on the future
• Goals and growth are great and you should pursue them, but their purpose is to align our present
• We should not be so focused on the future that we sacrifice the present
• The habits of our lives in the present should feed the goals of the future
• Goals are there to motivate our present decisions

• Knowing your values helps you live in the present
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Gratitude is something people talk about, but putting it into practice is difficult. Plus, many people talk about it in a “touchy-feely” way, which throws us off as men. The reality of gratitude is something we need in our lives if we want to thrive.

In this week’s show, we discuss gratitude, what it is, and some of the pitfalls that keep us from developing a grateful attitude in our lives.

• Psalm 104 God sustains all aspects of creation
• We get used to things and expect them to stay the same
• Gratitude is a mentality that comes with practice - new neuro pathways in the brain
• Gratitude is a choice of where we put our mind

Entitlement

• When things are going good, we get used to it, and when things go bad, we notice it.
• Things “should be good” God Owes Me
• Biblical view: the only reason the world doesn’t fall apart right now is because God is holding back the chaos.
• The natural setting of this world isn’t life, but death. But God gives life.

Victim mentality

• James Clear Quote on Focus
• "If you look for evidence that people are conspiring to hold you back and the world is working against you, then it will take you no time at all to find precisely that. If you expect to encounter helpful people and experience a world that is working with you, then you find plenty of evidence to support that view as well. The raw material for a sweet life or a bitter life is always there. The story you emphasize is the one you notice."
• Writer and Nobel Prize winner Gabriel García Márquez on what matters in life:
• "What matters in life is not what happens to you but what you remember and how you remember it."

• At the end of each day, think about one thing you are grateful for

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What motivates you in life? What helps you have the energy and perseverance each day to keep going?

We all have different motivations. Some are selfish, and some are altruistic, but they often come down to our values. What we value will ultimately motivate us in our lives.

We want to do the work to recognize our values so we can focus on them and let them empower us to live a thriving life.

On today’s show, we discuss how values direct our lives and keep us from getting distracted or off course.

• Values are like a bridge between the wisdom of God and our everyday lives
• Values give a specificity to eternal principles and allow you to connect with them.
• Jim Dobson “I believe it [the midlife crisis] is more a phenomenon of a wrong value system than it is the age group in which it occurs. All of a sudden you realize that the ladder you've been climbing is leaning against the wrong wall.”

• Values inform your decisions and responses to life.
• If you do not choose, someone else will choose for you.
• “Your values are tested daily by those who do not embrace them.” John Maxwell

• Values force you to face reality every day: the difference between how you want to live and how you are living.
• You have to discover what’s important to you if you want to make progress.
• Your value score isn’t about the outcome of the day, but the input of that day.
• It’s not about how the day went, it’s about how you went through the day.
• It empowers you because it’s not about what’s outside your control, but what is in your control.

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What good are values? How do they help us in the everyday chaos of life?

That is what we are talking about on the show today. We will discuss how values are essential for us as we navigate life. Just like a compass helps sailors arrive at their destination, values guide us to live empowered lives. This means each day can be rich and full of meaning no matter what you do for a job or how many tasks you have to accomplish.

• Values can act as a compass and bring focus amidst the chaos.
• Values give us direction on what action to take.
• Values help us cut out the unnecessary or unimportant in our lives.

• Without values, we aren’t aiming our lives in any specific direction
• Values force us to choose.
• If we don’t choose a direction for our lives, someone or something else will choose for us.
• The current of life draws us towards the easy and the urgent. The easy and the urgent are rarely the important.
• Not choosing is a choice.

• A million different voices are screaming at us that we NEED to do their thing. (Buy their product, take their course, follow their advice, etc.)
• There is a dangerous assumption in our world that we can do everything.
• You CANNOT do it all. “Teach us to number our days, that we might gain a heart of wisdom.”(Psalm 90:12)
• We don’t need to do everything. We just need to do the right things
• The difference between a light and a laser is the focus.
• The difference between surviving and thriving is the focus.

• The Values Starter Kit

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