Everything I wish I had known as the parent of an undiagnosed ADHDer 30 years ago

Thank you for writing this book. I will be listening over and over again, and buying it in print. It’s value is beyond words. Thank you.

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amazing

I can't believe I read this all the way through, understanding every part of it. when I got diagnosed a year ago I was completely lost. I found rich and rox on FB and was blown away. I found this book soon after and my life began to make sense and all the things is struggled with in life became a little more clear. I was realising I wasn't alone. the book is written so well that I felt like they were with me on my journey of self discovery as I read each page I was in awe at the way they seemed to understand me by just filling in my empty mind gaps! I'm actually thankful that I found these two amazing people. They really don't know how they've helped change my life in the last year and for the future too. I owe them so much. thank you Rich and Rox for helping me with my life.

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I have never felt more seen

As someone who is struggling with ADHD, this made me feel so seen and I spend most of it shaking my head in disbelief that I am not alone in my feelings and that there is actually a compassionate way to look at my brain! Thank you very much for writing this!

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Wow….

I don’t ever usually write reviews… but all I want to say is … Thankyou ❤️
Please read this if you have ADHD.. 🤍

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Thank you Rich and Rox for your raw honesty.

These beautiful people have shared their experiences with the world to help us neurodivergents share our hidden inner worlds with the people we love in the hope that we can truly accept ourselves. I wish neurotypical people would listen to this book so they can have a small window in to the chaos that is a ND brain. I laughed and cried with them. Sending love and please continue your inspirational journey!

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Small talk

I found this book and audible version identical to my own feelings and family situation. I have ADHD and Complex PTSD. Masking for 50 years has been hard. The struggles noted here are so accurate. The emotions and thoughts written down are exact.
She’s incentivises with her raw emotion and practicable advice. Wish I get as lucky this lady in turning her life around.
And the love her support her partner gives is mind blowing. It’s been so meaningful hearing his take and his input. If only people could be more like these two.

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Probably the best audiobook I’ve listened to

I cried through most of this.
It felt like listening to myself..
It made me feel so much less alone
And I’ve come out of it with so many things and realisations, and the steps I need to take to learn to accept myself, my ADHD and to have hope that I can still find a way to move forward in life with that acceptance rather than trying to beat the ADHD out of me. I loved it. Thank you so much Richard and Rox.

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Outstanding

Best book I have listened to can’t wait for the next one and I don’t know anyone could not like you both

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Intelligent and empathetic approach to reframing the ADHD experience, so grateful to Rox and Rich!

This is a really vital book that I am indebted to Rox and Rich for creating. Their approach is exactly what is needed, they hit the nail on the head. After a lifetime of feeling like an inexplicable failure, the negative self talk is hard wired to the extent that if feels ordinary. Hearing someone I admire articulate the same critical and bullying inner voice that talks to me was hard, it was very close to the bone in its familiarity. How could someone like Rox be so mean to herself? Exactly how I do to myself, my ADHD husband, and my neurodivergent friends do too, you attack yourself harder, and before anyone else can.

Rich’s compassion and way of thinking about Rox’s ADHD is beautiful, it made me well up when he stood up for her against herself, and challenged her self beliefs. I feel validated and inspired, the way this book is written is genius, thank goodness Rox had her change of heart with their first attempt. I can see this approach would be invaluable to PMDD suffers, they need this exactly this kind of self empathy and support, and I feel like I might even be able to write such a book, maybe and turn this experience into something useful and beautiful, as Roxanne and Rich have done here.

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The honesty of the book

As someone who just been diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 47, I had pre-ordered this book and when it arrived I managed to get through the first couple of chapters with quite a few tears. But then me being I put the book down and just couldn’t find the right time to pick it up again. Instead I got the audio book to listen too and what can I say, what a fantastic and humbling book this is. Like my recent test (100% on inattentive type) all the chapters of the book resonated with me. What really hit hard is there being Rich to show and model how someone without ADHD can support someone with ADHD. I am hoping my wife will read this as it really is a very good peak under the hood of what it means to be me.

Thank you so much both of you for your bravery and openness to share this journey with us.

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