• Episode 312. Eight urgent upgrades
    Oct 29 2024

    On today’s episode:

    I’m sure no one is still running an iPhone 3 with the same software it came installed with. It would be completely incompatible with current apps. It is crazy that the idea of installing necessary operating system updates for your phone makes sense, but most people are still running the same internal operating system for their life that they installed before they finished primary school! No wonder life has become so difficult and ineffective.

    Here are the 8 most important operating system upgrades you’ll need to install in your mind if you would like to have a better experience of life.

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    34 mins
  • Episode 308. Amity Frazer interview. Daddy issues, the coaching space and being wonderful
    Sep 2 2024

    On Todays episode I interviewed my 20 year old daughter Amity about her experience of overcoming insecurity ahead of the curve. We also chat about her thoughts on:

    Readiness for change. How to increase it, and why you can’t get away with pretending to be ready.

    The power of the clean coaching space to facilitate lasting change.

    Accusations, agreements and dealing with daddy issues.

    How to discover the defining moments that created insecurity in the first place.

    Why gamification may be the only way into the journey of overcoming insecurity for most people.

    Why it is easy to underestimate the hard work around rewriting the story and the importance of being prepared for the pressure test.

    And, where psychedelics fit in the process and what conditions make them safe.

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    1 hr and 3 mins
  • Episode 311. Entitlement, first drinks and failing at what you don't want
    Oct 14 2024

    On today’s episode:

    How I fell into the entitlement trap again, and how Jim Carey helped rescue me from this dangerous state.

    Making sense of divine inspiration.

    The virtues of drinking alcohol on an empty stomach.

    Why it is important to own a bean bag.

    And my favourite writing from each of my 6 books.

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    56 mins
  • Episode 310. Focus, the cosmos and disagreeing with your heroes.
    Oct 1 2024

    On today's episode:

    The only way to tell if internet advice has any value, especially when you find completely contradictory ideas online.

    The importance of not just focussing, but knowing just what to focus on.

    Why I find the man made world more amazing than the natural one.

    An update on my latest writing project.

    What I do when my clients get scared,

    And pretending it is your first day on earth.

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    47 mins
  • Episode 309. Discipline does not equal freedom
    Sep 24 2024

    On today’s episode:

    Why Jocko Willink is wrong about getting the best out of yourself and how to truly find freedom instead.

    How Lebron James models certainty more purely than anyone else in the public eye.

    My favourite art, music and comedy from the last few weeks.

    And, why your problems are not clinging to you but, you are the one clinging to them.

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    39 mins
  • Episode 308. Amity Frazer interview. Daddy issues, the coaching space and being wonderful.
    Sep 10 2024

    On Todays episode I interviewed my 20 year old daughter Amity about her experience of overcoming insecurity ahead of the curve. We also chat about her thoughts on:

    Readiness for change. How to increase it, and why you can’t get away with pretending to be ready.

    The power of the clean coaching space to facilitate lasting change.

    Accusations, agreements and dealing with daddy issues.

    How to discover the defining moments that created insecurity in the first place.

    Why gamification may be the only way into the journey of overcoming insecurity for most people.

    Why it is easy to underestimate the hard work around rewriting the story and the importance of being prepared for the pressure test.

    And, where psychedelics fit in the process and what conditions make them safe.

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    1 hr and 1 min
  • Episode 307. Leunig, alcoholism and why I wish I was more insecure
    Aug 6 2024

    On todays episode:

    What the Olympics has to teach us about game theory and an explanation of the three main games each of us are invited to play.

    Why I have no respect for sobriety and why alcoholism is entirely a solvable problem (if indeed an alcoholic wanted it to be solved).

    How listening to an audiobook from someone who is long dead instantly dissolves the time, space continuum.

    And why Michael Leunigs carton of a woman’s ass explains everything.

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    39 mins
  • Episode 306. Being delusional, scaring Christians, and putting the past behind you
    Jul 23 2024

    On today’s episode:

    Why most of what you read on the internet about healing the wounds of your childhood is dangerously misleading.

    What I did to upset a couple of scared Christians this week and last week.

    How negative feedback from people who are not well placed to know who you are or to receive your gift, is actually very helpful in becoming a secure human being.

    What I said that lead to me being accused of deluding myself, but why everyone is delusional anyway.

    And why my wife never listens to this podcast.

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    31 mins