Welcome to the Don't Pick the Scab Podcast! 🎙️ In this episode, I sit down with the incredible Dr. Ernest Ellender, a clinical psychologist and martial arts expert, to explore the profound journey of healing after divorce for men over 40. 💔

Divorce can be a devastating experience, especially for men who may feel lost and overwhelmed. Dr. Ellender shares his unique insights on how to reclaim your life and thrive after such a significant life change. With a PhD in clinical psychology and a black belt in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, he combines the discipline of martial arts with trauma-informed care to empower men to overcome their struggles. 🥋✨

In this enlightening conversation, we delve into:

• Understanding Generational Trauma: Discover how past family dynamics can impact your relationships today and learn strategies to break the cycle. 🌪️

• Practical Healing Techniques: Dr. Ellender shares his 20 essential rules for healing from painful childhoods and navigating the emotional challenges of divorce. 📚

• The Role of Martial Arts: Learn how martial arts principles can foster resilience, confidence, and emotional stability during tough times. 💪

• Building Healthy Relationships: We discuss the importance of developing critical skills for successful relationships and how to avoid repeating past mistakes. 🔑

This episode is packed with actionable advice and heartfelt stories that will inspire you to take charge of your healing journey. Whether you're currently navigating a divorce or simply seeking personal growth, this conversation is for you! 🌟

Join us as we uncover the path to recovery and empowerment. Remember, healing is not just about moving on; it's about thriving and becoming the best version of yourself.

👉 Don't forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell! If you found this episode helpful, please leave a comment below sharing your thoughts or experiences. Your engagement helps us reach more men who need support on their journey to recovery. Let's build a community of strength and resilience together! 💬❤️

ALL THINGS ERNEST ELLENDER, PhD.

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Are you a man over 40 struggling to recover after divorce? 💔 You’re not alone, and this episode of the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast is here to help. Join host David Webb as he sits down with Alan Frantz, a divorce coach and adventure guide, to uncover powerful strategies for rebuilding your life, reclaiming your confidence, and rediscovering your identity after divorce. 🌟

Alan France, founder of Crooked Trail Coaching, has spent over two decades helping men navigate life’s toughest transitions. From leading wilderness adventures to coaching clients through personal growth, Alan’s unique Adventure 10 Framework combines challenge-based growth with practical steps to help you move forward. 🧭 Whether you’re dealing with heartbreak, financial stress, or the loss of identity, this episode is packed with actionable advice to help you thrive.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• The Power of Challenge-Based Growth: How taking on small, meaningful challenges can rebuild your confidence and help you move forward. 💪

• The Role of Forgiveness: Why forgiving yourself and others is essential for emotional healing—and how to do it. 🕊️

• The Adventure 10 Framework: A step-by-step guide to creating a life full of purpose, connection, and adventure after divorce. 🌄

• Why Nature Heals: How spending time outdoors can help you reconnect with yourself and find clarity. 🌿

• How to Let Go of Control: Learn why focusing on what you can control is key to reducing stress and finding peace. 🧘‍♂️

Alan shares his personal journey of overcoming divorce and how he turned his pain into purpose. From ultra-marathons to wilderness expeditions, he explains how embracing discomfort and taking risks can lead to profound personal growth. 🏔️

Key Takeaways for Men Over 40:

1. Slow Down and Feel It All: Healing isn’t a sprint—it’s a marathon. Take the time to process your emotions and avoid rushing into new relationships. 🕒

2. Reclaim Your Identity: Discover who you are outside of your marriage by exploring new hobbies, building meaningful relationships, and embracing vulnerability. 🎨

3. Take Action: Start small with “micro-adventures” that challenge you to step outside your comfort zone and rediscover your strength. 🚶‍♂️

This episode is a must-watch for any man over 40 looking to rebuild his life after divorce. Whether you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure of your next steps, Alan’s insights will inspire you to take action and create a life you love. 🌟

🎯 Ready to Take the First Step?

👉 Watch the full episode now and let us know in the comments: What’s one small step you’re taking to move forward after divorce? 💬 Your story could inspire someone else to take action!

Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share this video with someone who needs it. Together, we can build a community of men supporting each other through life’s toughest transitions. 💪

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Welcome to the 'Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast,' the go-to show for men over 40 navigating life after divorce! In this episode, host David Webb sits down with the inspiring Leanne Blanchard, a community-building expert and founder of Adventure Us. With over 15 years of experience as a Meetup organizer, Leanne shares her insights into why men often struggle to rebuild friendships after divorce and how they can take practical, actionable steps to form meaningful connections. 💪

Divorce can leave men feeling isolated. Their social structures—family, friends, and community—are often fractured. Leanne explains how societal expectations of individualism for men compound the issue and why building new friendships as an adult requires intentionality and effort. But don’t worry—there’s hope! 🌟

Leanne dives into topics like:

👉 How to overcome social anxiety and create lifelong bonds

👉 The science of friendship: why it takes 200 hours to make a best friend

👉 Why community and connection are essential for emotional healing

👉 Common mistakes men make when trying to form new friendships

👉 The power of shared experiences like events, game nights, and even travel

Learn how Adventure Us is changing the game for adults looking to foster genuine connections. With eight in-person events and four virtual activities per month, Leanne’s approach creates opportunities for deeper friendships and even life-changing transformations. Whether it’s a cocktail party, a game night, or an international trip to Iceland (Northern Lights, anyone?), there’s something for everyone. 🌌

Leanne also shares heartwarming success stories—like a man who overcame social awkwardness to become a core member of the community and a woman who discovered a new passion for improv after her divorce. These stories highlight the transformative power of belonging and connection.

💬 Feeling lonely after divorce? What’s YOUR biggest challenge in building new friendships? Drop a comment below and let’s start the conversation!

🔗 Explore Adventure Us and join the movement to build stronger connections: adventure-us.club

Don’t forget to LIKE 👍, SUBSCRIBE 🔔, and SHARE this episode with someone who needs to hear it. Let’s rebuild together!"

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💔 Divorce can feel like the end of everything, but it doesn’t have to be. In this powerful episode of the “Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast,” host David Marcus Webb sits down with Jody Bruns, founder of the Divorce Lending Association and a pioneer in divorce mortgage planning. With over 35 years of experience in finance and real estate, Jody has helped thousands of professionals and families navigate the complexities of divorce with clarity, strategy, and compassion. 🚀

Jody’s personal journey through divorce inspired her mission to educate others, create innovative solutions, and empower families to make smart financial decisions during one of life’s toughest transitions. She’s trained nearly 10,000 professionals and written a national certification for divorce mortgage planning, transforming how divorcing couples handle real estate and finances.

🏡 Key Takeaways from This Episode:

• Why keeping the family home may hurt more than it helps.

• How emotions could derail your financial stability (and how to avoid it).

• The biggest myths about real estate during divorce—and why they could cost you.

• Why “legal options” don’t always align with “mortgage options.”

• How divorce planning can set you up for success, not stress.

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Jody also shares real-life stories of people who turned their post-divorce lives around by embracing strategy over emotion. Learn how one mom avoided becoming “house poor” and how another client avoided costly mistakes by understanding the relationship between divorce agreements and mortgage qualifications.

📘 About Jody Bruns:

Jody is the author of "A House Divided" and an expert in family law, tax planning, and finance. She’s dedicated to helping people see divorce not as the end, but as an opportunity for a brighter, more secure future.

🔥 Why This Episode Is a Must-Listen for Men Over 40:

Whether you’re keeping the house, selling it, or unsure of the next step, this episode is packed with actionable advice to help you navigate the financial realities of divorce. Stop relying on Google for answers that may be wrong—get the insider knowledge you need to move forward with confidence.

💡 Pro Tip: Don’t let emotions cloud your judgment. Treat your divorce like a business decision to protect your future.

📣 Join the Conversation!

What’s the biggest challenge you’ve faced (or are facing) in your divorce journey? Drop your thoughts in the comments below—we’d love to hear your story and help you move forward. 👇

🔔 Don’t forget to LIKE AND SUBSCRIBE so you never miss an episode of the “Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast.” Your recovery starts here! 💪

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ALL THINGS JODY BRUNS

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Are you a man over 40 struggling to rebuild your life after divorce? You’re not alone. In this episode of Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast, host David sits down with Sabrina Trobak, a registered clinical counselor and author of Not Good Enough: Understanding Your Core Belief in Anxiety, to explore the raw truths about mental health, trauma, and healing after divorce.

Sabrina, with over 20 years of experience in counseling and psychology, shares her expert advice on the core beliefs that often leave men feeling “not good enough” after a breakup. 💔 She dives into how suppressed emotions, negative coping mechanisms (like anger, substance use, or workaholism), and past trauma fuel cycles of inadequacy and anxiety. But it doesn’t stop there—Sabrina provides actionable strategies to break free from these patterns so you can rebuild your confidence, self-worth, and life.

👉 Highlights from this episode include:

• The 3 most common core beliefs men face after divorce 💡

• How to identify and replace negative coping mechanisms 🛑

• Why men suppress emotions—and how to feel them safely 🙌

• The power of mindfulness and self-compassion in recovery 🧘

• How past trauma manifests in anxiety and feelings of failure 🔄

• Tips on co-parenting when you can’t control what happens at your ex’s house 👨‍👦‍👦

Sabrina also discusses the importance of self-care, gratitude, and building community as essential tools for healing. Whether you’re navigating the challenges of starting over, co-parenting, or dating again, this episode is packed with insights, advice, and support tailored specifically for men over 40.

💬 Join the conversation! What’s your biggest challenge in divorce recovery? Drop a comment below, and let’s talk about it. Your story matters, and you might inspire someone else on their journey.

🔗 Find Sabrina online:

• Website: trobakholistic.org

• Facebook & YouTube: Trobak Holistic Counseling

• Instagram: @NGE_trobak

• TikTok: @NGE_core_belief

• LinkedIn: Sabrina Trobak
  Check out her book, Not Good Enough: Understanding Your Core Belief and Anxiety, for more life-changing insights. 🌟

💪 Remember: Healing takes time, but you don’t have to do it alone. Subscribe to the channel for more content on divorce recovery, self-worth, and mental health for men over 40.

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Feeling stuck after divorce? You're not alone. In this episode of the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast," host David Webb welcomes Dr. Hana Kabela-Gala, a business professor turned transformational neuro coach, to discuss practical strategies for men over 40 to regain confidence, let go of guilt, and reset their lives.

Dr. Hana specializes in helping high achievers break free from limiting beliefs, overthinking, and mental gridlock using her groundbreaking Rapid Transformational Neuro Coaching (RTNC) method. Through a powerful combination of neuroscience, hypnosis, and mindset hacks, she helps men overcome the emotional chaos of divorce and build a stronger, more fulfilling future.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

✔️ Why traditional talk therapy often doesn’t work for men—and what does

✔️ How hypnosis can help you rewire your brain and shift deep-rooted beliefs

✔️ The surprising science behind overthinking and how to stop it

✔️ Practical tools to rebuild your self-esteem and identity after divorce

✔️ How to find purpose and joy in the next chapter of your life

Dr. Hana shares personal insights, client success stories, and actionable tips designed specifically for men navigating the emotional rollercoaster of divorce. From resetting your mindset to practical steps like journaling, building connections, and rediscovering your passions, this episode is packed with valuable advice.

Key Quotes from the Episode:

💬 “Change your beliefs, and you change your behavior.”

💬 “Men are action-biased. Sitting and talking doesn’t feel efficient—but there’s a better way to heal.”

💬 “Self-love isn’t egotistical—it’s the foundation for creating something great.”

Why Listen to This Episode?

If you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure how to move forward after divorce, this episode is your roadmap to recovery. Discover how to unlock your subconscious, ditch the guilt, and rebuild your confidence with proven strategies that work.

🤔 What’s Your Biggest Takeaway?

We’d love to hear from you! Share your thoughts in the comments:

❓ What part of the discussion resonated most with you?

❓ Have you tried any of these techniques, and what worked for you?

👇 Don’t forget to like and subscribe so you never miss an episode that helps you take control of your life after divorce! Share this episode with someone who needs it—they’ll thank you later.

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RTNC Hana Gala

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Are you a man over 40 struggling to recover after a divorce? You're not alone, and this episode of the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" is here to guide you through the challenges and opportunities of post-divorce life. 🌟💔

In this episode, David sits down with the inspiring Elizabeth Jane, a transformative speaker, author, and healer, who shares her personal journey of self-discovery after a 25-year marriage ended abruptly. From her profound experiences in an Indian ashram to the tools she developed in her book, "Free and First: Unlocking Your Ultimate Life", Elizabeth offers a roadmap for healing, self-worth, and personal growth.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

✅ The ABC Method: Acknowledge, Allow, Accept – A practical toolkit for processing emotions and setting boundaries.

✅ The Importance of Self-Worth: Why rebuilding your confidence is essential for attracting fulfilling relationships and opportunities.

✅ Forgiveness & Letting Go: How to move past anger and resentment to create space for joy and peace.

✅ Mindfulness Practices: Simple, actionable ways to stop dwelling on the past and start living in the present.

✅ Creative Healing Tools: How art, poetry, and hobbies can help you process grief and reclaim your identity.

Elizabeth also addresses common struggles men face, such as co-parenting in high-conflict situations and knowing when you're ready to start dating again. Her practical tips and heartfelt insights will leave you feeling empowered and ready to take the next step toward your ultimate life. 🚀✨

Key Quotes from the Episode:

💬 "Stop numbing yourself and start feeling your emotions. That's where the healing begins."

💬 "Forgiveness isn’t condoning—it’s liberating yourself from the chains of resentment."

💬 “When you work on yourself, everyone around you benefits. Your energy radiates outward.”

Whether you're navigating co-parenting challenges or rediscovering your joy, this episode gives you actionable advice to reclaim your power and rebuild your life.

Resources:

🔗 Elizabeth Jane’s Website: www.elizabethjane.com.au

📘 Elizabeth’s Book: Free and First: Unlocking Your Ultimate Life – Available on Amazon!

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💔 Divorce is one of life's toughest challenges, especially for men over 40. On this episode of the "Don’t Pick the Scab" podcast, David sits down with filmmaker, producer, and storyteller John Wayne S. III, who shares his deeply personal journey of rebuilding his life after divorce. From navigating co-parenting struggles to rediscovering his own identity, John’s story is raw, real, and relatable for any man trying to find his footing again.

🎥 With over 20 years of experience in filmmaking, John opens up about how his creativity was stifled during the divorce process and how he found his way back to his passion. He shares the emotional toll of losing his sense of self and how he overcame the challenges of starting over—both professionally and personally.

👨‍👧 Co-parenting struggles? John dives into the ups and downs of raising children post-divorce while balancing a demanding career. He candidly discusses the importance of putting children first, even when the relationship with your ex is strained. His mantra? "Love your kids more than you hate your ex."

❤️ Dating after divorce can feel like a minefield, and John doesn’t hold back on sharing his missteps and lessons learned. From awkward first dates to figuring out what he truly wants in a partner, his insights will resonate with any man stepping back into the dating world after a long-term marriage.

📢 Key Takeaways in This Episode:

• How to rediscover your identity after divorce 🌟

• The importance of self-care and advocating for your health 🩺

• Tips on co-parenting when the relationship with your ex is rocky 👨‍👧‍👦

• Why "the first one out of the gate" after divorce often isn’t the one 💔

• How to approach dating and relationships after 40 ❤️

  
  

💡 Whether you're a divorced dad looking to rebuild your bond with your kids, a man trying to rediscover his passions, or someone dipping their toes back into the dating pool, this episode is filled with wisdom and authentic advice that will help you take the next step forward.

🎙️ Tune in for heartfelt insights, practical advice, and a reminder that you are not alone in this journey. Divorce doesn’t have to define you—it can be the catalyst for a new chapter of growth and fulfillment.

🔥 What’s your biggest challenge after divorce? Let us know in the comments below! Share your story or tips for others navigating life after 40. Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell so you never miss an episode. Let’s build a community of men helping men thrive after divorce! 💪

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