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Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me)

By: Carol Tavris, Elliot Aronson
Narrated by: Marsha Mercant, Joe Barrett
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Summary

Why do people dodge responsibility when things fall apart? Why the parade of public figures unable to own up when they screw up? Why the endless marital quarrels over who is right? Why can we see hypocrisy in others but not in ourselves? Are we all liars? Or do we really believe the stories we tell? Backed by years of research and delivered in lively, energetic prose, Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me) offers a fascinating explanation of self-deception - how it works, the harm it can cause, and how we can overcome it.

©2008 Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson (P)2010 Audible, Inc.
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Critic reviews

"Thanks, in part, to the scientific evidence it provides and the charm of its down-to-earth, commonsensical tone, Mistakes Were Made is convincing. Reading it, we recognize the behavior of our leaders, our loved ones, and—if we're honest—ourselves, and some of the more perplexing mysteries of human nature begin to seem a little clearer." (Francine Prose, O, The Oprah Magazine)
"By turns entertaining, illuminating and—when you recognize yourself in the stories it tells—mortifying." ( The Wall Street Journal)

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Very True

Insightful and very educational.. A good read plus one to put into practice. No dull moments plus you come to realize how flawed we are as human beings.


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Should be taught in schools!

Brilliant book that I need to relisten to absorb more from it and incorporate this into everyday life!
A must read for anyone looking to improove their existance as a human.

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essential reading for humans

In here somewhere is accountability and forgiveness occupying the same space. Informative and enlightening by any standard.

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Great book, terrible narrator.

Really interesting book. The narrator has no idea how humour works or how to convey meaning.

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Perfect

The only problem I had was that it ended. I had to listen again to keep getting my fix of strange perspectives.

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dissonance theory

interesting. dissonance theory, justification effort theory. why people act against their best interests, and why we will never apologise for mistakes

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unflinching exploration of cognitive dissonance

I found this an engagingly performed, wide ranging investigation into the destructive effects of self-justification.

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American culture context

I prefer Matthew Syeds books and Kahneman etc social psychology. the marriage counseling is less relevant to UK culture

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you may struggle to hear the message

but that is why you should listen to this book. learn and move forward in life

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No mistake was made buying this book

One of the best books on psychology I've ever heard. Fascinating, illuminating, funny and useful throughout

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